Week 3, Day 7 – Livin’ by Forgivin’, Recap
First, I want to say ‘Congratulations’ to everyone that has stuck with me this far! You are truly amazing and you should be extremely proud of where you are today! Not only are you 75% of the way done, but you made it through some pretty tough stuff the last six days. Forgiveness is not an easy topic. Not only does it require us to build from our foundation of gratitude, but it requires us to show compassion, empathy and become vulnerable.
Those of you that have spent any time around me (EVER), you would know I do not go anywhere (ANYWHERE) without my make-up. I don’t even like the idea of being that vulnerable. I’d rather hide behind the mask of my lip gloss and mascara then allow others to see my facial imperfections. This week let me see the ‘make-up’ I use to cover my wounds, and each day has stripped a little bit of that cover off and I’m feeling pretty naked. It’s been quite a week of rawness and realness.
We opened the topic of forgiveness with reflecting or discovering some of the secrets we hide within ourselves. We have secrets because we fear letting others know the truth. We are afraid that if others know our secret(s) they may not accept us as we are. We believe, “If we cannot accept ourselves, how will someone else?” So, we stay silent. We disconnect ourselves. And, we think we remain in control. But, in the end, we are unhappy, lonely and afraid.
We also skirted our way around the surface of living a life of forgiveness in everyday situations. Situations that arise that can steal our happiness and joy without much effort. We’ve become aware of our necessary involvement and need of vulnerability to truly forgive ourself and others.
Our giving is affected and reflected by the hurt held in our hearts. In order to give generously, we must be free of bitterness, anger, deceit, etc. We have to let go of our hurts and forgive those that have wronged us, including the hurts we commit against ourselves. In order to do that effectively, we must manage the expectations we have for ourself and others, and humble ourselves to become vulnerable in a world that requires much toughness. And, we must not confuse our love and compassion for others as a mask for the forgiveness that is necessary to live a truly joyful life and experience a Spirit of Giving that never ceases.
*Mindful Moments – Sit in a quiet place and relax for five minutes. If necessary, drink a cup of your favorite tea! Just reflect on where you are today, and compare it to where you were just three weeks ago. What is the greatest thing you’ve learned in your journey so far, and how can you cultivate that lesson into a lifestyle change? When you’ve finished, you know what to do, right? Take a deep breath…
*Grateful Graces – What are you thankful for today?
to be continued…Week 4, Day 1: Tell it Like it Is