Week 3, Day 5 – Livin’ by Forgivin’
For the previous 18 days, I’ve been fairly consistent in my posting time. That didn’t happen today. While my delay of writing probably caused no harm in your day, for those of you that are active participants, perhaps it caused you to wonder what happened. If you are accustomed to seeing the post in your Inbox each morning, and it wasn’t there, were you wanting some information to where the post was and how long it would be before it was posted?
It’s only natural to expect and predict what will happen based on previous knowledge and experience. For 18 days, most of you were able to wake up and read the post if you so desired. Then, all of a sudden, it’s not there. Where did it go? Has the journey already ended? Did she become roadblocked like she feared? Is she sick? Did I miss a post that explained there was going to be a change?
These are a few examples of the types of questions that we may ask ourself when something is not as it should be. There was no ‘head’s up’ change to my writing plans, no ‘Note’ posted that I’m running late with today’s writing, or any message sent out to explain what was going on with me. It appeared that I just ignored the unwritten expectation that I would post by a certain time.
And, so, it got me thinking about all our expectations that we hold for others. Managing expectations is not only important for our Attitude of Gratitude, it is also necessary for us to continue Livin’ by Forgivin’. We have certain expectations of how our family and friends should behave, love us, accept us and help us. We have expectations about holiday dinners, family get togethers, girls night out, etc. We want certain things to happen so we can get what we need out of it. And, then, well, life happens. Personalities and expectations collide when two or more people have different ideas of what is going to happen. Our habits and inflexibility lead us to frustration and moments of bitterness with one another. Maybe we even feel like we are the one always being ‘flexible’ so the other person can have their way. And, we just want it to be our way for once. Know what I’m talking about?!
Well, let’s take a deep breath here. Hold it for two seconds and then slowly release. We’ve got some work to do today. As the holidays are getting closer, we will inevitably have some moments that do not live up to our expectations. Let’s use our mindful moment today to lead us to a path that will give us the right attitude and expectation to make it with our soul untethered for once. http://news.rutgers.edu/…/holiday-cheer-or-horror…/20141130…
*Mindful Moments – Take a few minutes to check your expectations with your friends and family. Do you have any that you might be able to see that are really unrealistic in the grand scheme of things? Are there certain individuals that always cause some frustration for you at these gatherings? How can you adjust your attitude and expectation before the big day to keep your mind and soul in healthy equilibrium?
*Grateful Graces – What are you thankful for today?
to be continued…Week 3, Day 6: Hidden Pain
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