My high school graduating class has a group on Facebook. I woke up this morning to a slew of email notifications. What in the world…?
As I clicked on the link to see the thread, I saw a post asking any Trump supporters to de-friend themselves from his profile. Innocent enough. He sounded sincere and polite in his request. But, then he just couldn’t let it go. He had to go there. He had to call Trump supporters ‘dirtbags.’
While I am all for the freedom of speech, even hate speech, I’m not for immaturity. DRIVES ME MAD. Share your thoughts; share your views! I encourage it! Many of us exert our ‘enlightenment’ through extreme measures and public display. Heck, I use my own blog to help me see the truth.
As someone who has lived and traveled around the world, I’ve been able to gain a great understanding of ‘how the world works.’ I’ve lived in post-Communist countries where people would tell me that life was better in those days. I’ve lived in places where women’s rights are such a struggle, I was faced with stories of young girls rescued as victims of trafficking go on to proclaim they must go back. Life is easier for them there. They can simply pay their dues. If they survive and are let go, they have a better life ahead of them; rather than staying in a country that doesn’t value them at all.
These are definitely hard things to listen to, much less accept and process rationally. As Americans, we pride ourselves with facts that support our belief we are the greatest country in the world. We preach tolerance and acceptance. Our government uses Human Rights as a way to watch out for our global neighbors. Our churches send hundreds of missionaries around the world, and our benevolent nature supports and cares for them.
I can’t expect my friends and family back home in Oklahoma to have the perspective and knowledge of how the world works, quite the same as I. I can’t expect them to think the same way I do about the candidates running for President. And, I can’t expect them to change who they are, or suddenly understand my view, just to satisfy my needs of belonging to my home.
In 1961, President John F. Kennedy quoted parliamentarian Edmund Burke who said, ‘The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.’ (HuffingtonPost.com)
The only way to truly be tolerant and accepting of others, is to first accept ourselves. When we can be honest with who we are, what we’ve learned in life, and how we behave, then we can understand where others are coming from, too. To simply insult a group of people that you are unwilling to understand, not only shows your immaturity, but your lack of self-respect.
And, I have only a little tolerance for those that can’t respect themselves – because that means they can’t respect me.
Until next time –
Recommended Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199911/self-esteem-vs-self-respect